Women who share interests with me give me an opportunity to polarize them quickly to being Receptive. Women who are not passionate or self-aware I drop very quickly and go meet someone else. This question will tell me two things: how passionate and self-aware she is about her own life, and secondly if we have anything in common.At the bar, the first question out of my mouth is one of my favorites for Neutral situations: "What's your favorite thing in the world?".The Friend Zone typically occurs when a man meets a Receptive or Neutral woman but never makes a move or expresses his interest.
Which side she polarizes to is far less important than actually taking action. Whatever it is, the goal with Neutral women is to take an action that forces her to make a decision about how she feels about you. It may be as simple as smiling at her from across the room. This may mean flirting with them or teasing them.
The uncomfortable truth is that the majority of women are going to have high degrees of friction and projection when you meet them.Friction is when a woman finds you to be an attractive man, but there are value differences or external circumstances that prevent her from acting on that attraction or being interested in you.You are simply expressing your thoughts and feelings as they come to you, without inhibition, without shame. That means everything you say and do must be done without any ulterior motive. Vulnerability requires honesty, and honesty only works if it’s given unconditionally, with no strings attached.The more nervous it makes you, the better, because it means you’re being authentic and making yourself vulnerable. You say it because you mean it and mean it because you say it. So the catch is that everything you say must be as authentic as possible.A non-needy man is comfortable showing his flaws because he’s more comfortable with how he feels about himself than how others feel about him.A man who’s able to make himself vulnerable is saying to the world, "Screw the repercussions this is who I am, and I refuse to be anyone else." He’s saying he is non-needy and high status.
Vulnerability represents a form of power, a deep and subtle form of power.Not just emotional vulnerability (although we’ll get to that), but physical vulnerability, social vulnerability. I want you to think of vulnerability in a more broad way.Take care of yourself and those who are important to you. The only real dating advice is self-improvement.Seduction is the process by which a man induces a woman to become as invested in him as he is in her.A man's attractiveness is inversely proportional to how needy he is.Notes Part I: Reality Chapter 1: Non-Neediness